Are you a victim of domestic violence?

Victime de violences conjugales ?

The two months of confinement in France led to an increase in domestic violence, which accounted for the bulk of police custody during this period (according to Le Monde's April 25, 2020 article "Violences conjugales : " Le confinement est devenu un instrument supplémentaire pour les agresseurs"). In Europe, there has even been a 60% increase in calls from female victims of domestic violence during confinement.

#So how do you react if you are a victim, witness or suspect domestic violence?

Domestic violence is a deliberate attack on the other person's integrity, a hold, a conditioning from which it is difficult to escape when you are a victim. It is not only physical or sexual, but can also be psychological, and is the most frequent form of violence against women in France: every year, ten out of a hundred women aged between 20 and 59 are victims of violence by their partner. This is also the case for three men out of a hundred (according to a Monde article of April 10, 2015 "Hommes battus: des chiffres pour comprendre une réalité méconnue"). Yet fear, loss of self-confidence, denial or shame lead only one woman in five victims of domestic violence to file a complaint.

#Who are the victims of domestic violence?

There is no typical profile for a woman who is a victim of domestic violence, and any woman can find herself one day in her life in the grip of a spouse who often has two faces (charming in society and a torturer at home). It's worth noting that men can also fall victim to their partners. In any case, the victim is never responsible for the violence he or she suffers.

#What to do if you are a victim, witness or suspect domestic violence?

The first thing to do when accompanying a victim of domestic violence is to let her know that you understand what was going on, and that you are ready to support her without judgment.

Reassure and value the victim, and use the technique of rephrasing, i.e. rephrasing all or part of what she says to show that you are listening attentively and trying to understand what she is telling you, without questioning her words at any point.

Avoid asking questions that are too direct, recounting personal experiences or letting her know how you see things. It's also very important to respect her choices if she doesn't want more concrete help, even if you don't understand them.

It's also important to direct the victim, if she so wishes, to dedicated structures that can best support her. This is the case with the CNIDFF and the CIDFF network, which provide victims of gender-based violence with a listening ear, information (particularly on their rights) and support (legal, medical, social and professional). Family planning is also a place for listening and providing support. You can also refer the victim to one of the shelters for people in difficulty, some of which specialize in women and women victims of violence. You can also pass on the 115 number for victims, which is dedicated to urgent accommodation needs, as well as the 3919 number, which is an anonymous, accessible and free number that guarantees a listening ear, information and even appropriate referral to local support and care services. However, remember that this number is not an emergency number, and that in the event of an immediate emergency, call 17 or 18.
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Six years since France ratified the Istanbul Convention on preventing and combating violence against women and domestic violence, yet in France many women are still victims of violence by their spouses, and this has even increased during confinement, representing the bulk of police custody. To date, @noustoutesorg has counted 49 feminicides, since January 1, 2020. Domestic violence can be physical, psychological or sexual. Fear, loss of self-confidence, denial or shame lead only one in five women victims of domestic violence to lodge a complaint. If you are a victim, witness or suspect domestic violence, we advise you to consult the websites infofemmes.com, planning-familial.org, fondationdesfemmes.org, solidaritefemmes.org, ellesimaginent.fr or service-public.fr to find answers to your questions, as well as appropriate support and advice. Several techniques have also emerged to alert those around you if you are a victim of domestic violence: write a black dot in the palm of your hand, or alert your pharmacist by asking for a "masque 19". ... victim is never responsible for the violence she suffers.

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