Are my breasts normal? A source of shame?

Mes seins sont-ils normaux ? Une source de honte ?

Although women's bodies generally suffer from many injunctions in our society, the breasts seem to be at the heart of it. Source of many complexes, many women do not feel in agreement with their breasts.

Is it necessary to have breasts to be a real woman?

As soon as the breast develops, there are those who look forward to it, and those who prefer it when it is not there. Then there is the stereotype of the woman who has to have beautiful breasts, round, not drooping, soft and voluminous at the same time, like in movies or commercials. Coupled with this concept is the idea that to be a "real" woman, one must have breasts. Breasts are for some sexual objects for others, they are the means to feed a child.

To stick to this image of perfect breasts, we resort to lingerie, push-ups, exercises to make them firmer, surgery to make them bigger, to make them smaller, and anything else that could make our breasts more "beautiful", more "pleasant to look at", more politically correct and conform to the "norm".

However, all breasts are in nature, and their shapes and aspects are as numerous as the number of women on this planet. There is no normality, and yet many women have a complex about their breasts. It can even go as far as being ashamed to wear certain clothes, to appear naked in front of someone else, or even in front of oneself and lead to a feeling of hatred towards one's own body.

There are as many breasts as there are people!

By doing some research on the internet to understand why our breasts do not correspond to what we are shown in the media, we come across hundreds of pages that give information on cosmetic operations to have a breast reconstruction. It is not easy to feel good in your body and to accept yourself when you are pushed to change...

This period is even more difficult during adolescence or early adulthood or when sexual life begins. Too small we are not a woman, too big we are quickly sexualized, exposed to the male gaze. Our breasts can also be the cause of back pain.

We think they are too far apart, too sagging, not the same size, in short, our breasts never really please us.

It is difficult for everyone to feel comfortable with their breasts, but it is important to keep in mind that there is no such thing as ONE perfect breast. In fact, the breast is one of the few parts of the body that undergoes so many variations during a lifetime, whether it be through the hormonal cycle, contraception, pregnancy, weight gain or loss, or age. Their shape and volume vary throughout life and it is more common to have different breasts than perfectly symmetrical ones.

Moreover, for a few years, movements like the no-bra (see our blog post dedicated to this topic), or even many Instagram pages like @taboobofficial or @tubular.breasts advocate a beauty in every breast, as different as it is, as well as the right to show breasts on social networks, without them being perceived as sexual.

You are beautiful, your breasts are beautiful!

Watch out for anomalies that should get your attention



It is very important to monitor your breasts and in particular: a change in size, the occurrence of a ball, skin retraction, thickening of the skin, redness, visible veins, nipple discharge (except breastfeeding).

Breast cancer affects 1 in 8 women, which makes it the most common cancer in women, but it can also affect men! But it is also one of the most curable cancers: if it is detected early, breast cancer is cured in 9 out of 10 people.

From the age of 50, it is therefore important to have a mammogram every two years. This is fully covered by Social Security.

The palpation of the breasts, performed by the gynecologist, as well as the self-palpation to be performed every month after menstruation from the age of 20, is also important to detect breast cancer.

To perform the self-palpation effectively, we advise you to watch this video.

And during your period, you can always trust the comfort of your Elia menstrual panties!

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