Is my vulva "non-compliant"?

How do we know if our vulva is beautiful or ugly?

During my adolescence, I learned to discover myself. I saw my body change, the hair arrive, the breasts grow, but what disturbed me the most was the development of my sexual organ, especially my vulva. To tell you the truth, I had a complex about it. I thought it was ugly. The only means of comparison that I had with regard to the female organ were either the unique diagram that we were presented in sexual education class in the 8th grade, or the porn videos (where from my point of view, all the female sexes look alike).

My complex made me wonder: Why do my labia protrude? Is it an anomaly? Is my vulva ugly? Is there any way to change this? Can I have sex? Am I normal?

What does a "normal" vulva look like?

After reading several testimonies about female sex, I discovered that there is not only one model of vulva, but that our sex is unique to each of us and that it is totally normal to be different!

I discovered that having small lips that protrude would not prevent me from having sexual relations, that I don't have to complex about it, but above all that it is not because we don't talk about it that the differences don't exist! A taboo subject which can finally complex many of us and especially the youngest.

So, in my turn, I decided to discover and especially to LOVE my body as it is. Without hesitation, mirror in hand, I discovered myself and learned to accept myself.

If you have complexes, you can also talk to health professionals who will help you to deconstruct them.

I have made some drawings of vulvas. My proposals are not exhaustive, there are as many different ones as there are people on earth.

Vulva =/= of the vagina

The vulva represents the outside of the genital apparatus, it is made up of the clitoris and its cap, the labia minora, the labia majora, the urethra and the vaginal orifice.

On the other hand, the vagina is internal, here is a diagram to locate it.

How to rejuvenate your vulva?

A recent testimony from a reality TV girl struck me. She explained that she had undergone radiofrequency and mesotherapy during a session with her gynecologist. But when she starts talking about her vagina (which is actually her vulva) she explains that hers is "beautiful" and that her labia do not protrude.

Besides the fact that she compares her sex to that of a 12 year old child, this celebrity reinforces the injunctions around the female body.

If I was 15 years old and I heard this kind of talk, I think my complex would have been reinforced and more difficult to deconstruct.

Surgery to solve your complexes?

• Radiofrequency consists of emitting electromagnetic waves that deliver heat to the vaginal tissue. This practice only allows the regeneration of the mucous membrane in case of dryness. However, some gynecologists, including Nasrine Callet, a gynecologist at the Institut Curie-Hôpital René Huguenin, explains that the vagina is naturally supple until the menopause thanks to hormones. Except in exceptional cases, there is no need for this operation at age 24.

• Mesotherapy consists of micro injections to stimulate the cells of the vaginal mucosa.

• Nymphoplasty, which consists of reducing hypertrophy (the labia minora that protrude from the labia majora). I learned about this operation when I was a teenager, and let me tell you that it is not without risks. Indeed, orgasms can be more difficult to achieve or less intense.

Generally, these operations are performed following a tear during childbirth or a deformation that could cause discomfort. Some doctors refuse to perform these operations when it is only for aesthetic purposes.

Is it necessary to be beardless and have a teenage vulva to please?

Before trying to please others, you must first please yourself. Do you prefer to keep your hair? Do you feel better with it? Then keep it! On the other hand, you prefer to be hairless? Well, take it off! Only you decide how you treat your body!

And a hairless vulva is not dirty or ugly, and a hairless vulva is not to be compared with a teenage sex!

What message would I like to send to all teenagers?

To you, who is discovering your body, who sees it changing, know that you are normal and beautiful as you are. Getting to know your body is important to be able to feel comfortable with it later on (yes, it will follow you all your life!) So thank you my body for allowing me to move, eat, dance, jump, run, play...

And you, what do you thank your body for?

- A testimony from Romy

How to take care of your vulva?

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